October 2025

My obsession with Sex and the City started young, like really young. With a sister seven years older than me I was watching the Real World by the time I was eight and quoting Samantha before my boobs began developing. It all makes me really uncomfortable now, but it was the early 2000’s and television was different back then, even on HBO.

One of the most memorable episodes of Sex in the City for me is Carrie Bradshaw’s realization that she revealed too much to soon, labeling herself “emotionally slutty.” If I died tomorrow my gravestone would say, “Daughter. Fast talker. Emotionally slutty.” It is what it is.

A few weeks ago I was at the bar for my weekly pinball tournament, don’t knock it till you try it. In an aim to talk to a guy, any guy, I set my eyes on a red haired version of my now ex, except slightly shorter and with a much better job. I was smitten. The universe was on my side when I was grouped on the same team as him, and this is where our love story begins.

We spent the night talking about the usual DC topics: where we were originally from, our jobs, what we hoped our jobs to one day be and some of our favorite things to do in the city. He was eerily normal and based on my last relationship I was impressed that he didn’t insist on taking a shot with every beer he ordered. Yes, my standards are extremely low lately. Although we were on a team with two other guys, he and I played at a similar level, so the night was spent trying to beat each other for second place. After a night of pinball and friendly goodbyes, I quickly ran home to tell my best friend about the cuter, more successful version of my ex that I had discovered. Then the next day happened, and it all fell to shit. In typical twenty something fashion I Googled him. I had his first name and knew he lived in the city, but with his cookie cutter name I didn’t get anywhere. Then it hit me that I could find his full name using the pinball registry form, so after a few seconds of scrolling I hit the jackpot and found his full name, and that’s when my fingers really hit they keyboard. One of my many skills is being a great investigator, and I know every girl thinks she could work for the FBI, but I’m different. Gimme one minute detail and a name and I will find his full legal name, address, favorite bar to check into and his old Tumblr profile from 2009. What can I say, it’s a gift! Anyways, you know when you’re doing a little snooping and find too much? Then you’re left feeling bad about what you found but you cant even bring it up cause somehow you look like you’re in the wrong. Those last two sentences basically sum up my twenties.

I found too much guys. Way too much.

As I was doing an old fashioned Google search I found a webpage that had his name as part of the URL. My silly self thought, “oh wouldn’t it be hilarious if this was one of those embarrassing wedding websites or something.” It was. It is! He’s engaged ya’ll! Like to be married! This new discovery sent me in a downward spiral of then stalking his gorgeous fiance who legitimately looks like a real life Barbie doll. Their website featured their love story, from how they met to when and how he proposed. It had photos of their venue and a live countdown to the wedding date. To make things worse they had linked their wedding registry, and like a true supporter of love I scrolled through it, and in all fairness, the girl has good taste. So yeah, I spent the night being emotionally slutty with another girl’s fiance. I guess she’s just marrying one of those really friendly guys that talks to random girls on the rebound in dark bars. They look incredibly happy and I wish them nothing but the best, but I have made a official request to no longer be grouped in the same pinball team as him. I can’t let it slip that I know he vacationed in Greece two summers ago and would love to know if his college roommate ever recovered from that fall.

Are you guilty of ever being emotionally slutty? Share your horror story below so we can all bond over our creepy tendencies. 

Over time social media has become something I use less and less, with the exception of Instagram. My slow transition to no longer using Facebook had a little to do with the comparison game we all play and a lot do with the amount of negativity I saw on the platform on a daily basis. When I joined Instagram it was a place to share photos and follow puppy accounts, long before DMs were possible and comment sections were full of negativity. With Instagram being one of the few forms of social media I still use on a daily basis, I’ve become discouraged by how many people on my feed are not only receiving hate but how they are coping with it as well.

Something you may not know about me is that I thrift for profit, meaning I buy cute, designer clothes and resell it online. Because of this, I follow a lot of other people who do this as a full-time job, plus bloggers and everyday people I’ve met. This week alone I’ve seen numerous people talk about their “haters,” show screenshots of rude messages they receive, and let those comments negatively impact their day and self-perception. As someone who doesn’t let much get to them, all I ever want to do is shake them and remind them these people don’t matter! And maybe respond with the crudest thing I can think of. Since that’s not an option though, or at least not one many would accept, here is the advice I would give any client or friend who came to me with this problem. I’m a therapist, just in case you hadn’t heard me mention that before. Okay, let’s talk about online hate.

What Am I Doing With My Life? is a weekly segment where I recap all the things I spent my week reading, watching and listening to. Think of it as a weekly link roundup but better, because it has a much more adorable name… 

What you might have missed while you were out having a life:

• The third season of American Horror Story has finally ended, and I’m not sure how I feel about what went down. Relive the best moments in gif form here. 
• Thanks to my friend Aaron I’ve developed an addiction to Snapchat. I’m a few months late to the fun though which leaves me with one friend to snap until 2 am or until he falls asleep, whichever comes first. This girl’s Snapchats make me want to cancel my cell phone service and just give up on life. Or snapchatting. 
• Apparently this is the mating dance of the Chilean flamingos. Do you think if I try it on campus I’ll nab a valentine?
• Watch these guys try to guess bra prices and other everyday things women buy.  

What I spent my week doing:

• Over on Her Campus I wrote about the photo a day challenge I’m in charge of. A twenty dollar gift card is the prize for the winning Instagram photo.
• I wrote an article for Life at UCR (my school’s admissions blog). It’s a day in the life of a typical college student at UCR, me of course!

My finished outfit for this weekend’s Hippie Run!

How does one deal with an ex on social media? And I’m not talking about a guy you briefly dated, I’m talking full on relationship, celebrated holidays together, might have even shared a toothbrush with type of relationship. Especially when said ex gave you no closure, explanation, or in reality, respect. When you want to be a grown adult and not block someone simply because the love died, how do you navigate seeing their post updates and knowing they can see yours. Moving past obsessing over what they post is what most focus on during a break up, but what do you do when they cross the line of silently lurking and into commenting territory. And no, not simple ones like “lol” or “cool.” I’m talking sarcastic remarks that once were funny but now just serve the purpose of forcing thoughts of him into your mind.

How do you continue to be the bigger person when the restless teen inside you want to reply, “bitch, I will cut you.” Luckily, I have experience in this department, I could lead this department, so let’s figure this one out together.

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You can choose to go one of two ways: continue following him or unfollow. If you choose to continue following him know that you will still see all his status updates, including selfies at his favorite bar and comments left by his new bae. If you’re strong enough to deal with this, more power to you! Unfollowing him ensures that you cant see all his status updates, as long as he doesn’t have his accounts set to public. Cause we both know you will search him late one night whether you follow him or not. If his profiles are private, this is an easy way to make sure you don’t spend time stalking his every move and analyzing his posts.

If his presence online really bothers you, and I’ve been there, you can also go the extra step and block him. Blocking him means you probably already unfriended/unfollowed him, but if you haven’t this means that by default you will be both blocking and unfollowing/unfriending. Is this all making sense?

When you block someone they no longer exist on your social media sphere, meaning not only will you not be able to see their account at all, they can also no longer see you. If they are tagged in photos by a mutual friend, that tag will lead you to a dead end page. Not gonna lie, nothing feels better than blocking someone. So if you’re angry or dealing with an ex who always wants to come running back, this might be your best option.

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People always forget to mention all the stuff that is left behind after a relationship, and I’m not talking about the forgotten hoodies and favorite CDs. Photographs, videos, and comments from when you two were at your happiest are still up on display for the world to see. This is where things get difficult, no matter how you feel after a break up. Post break up you need to decide if you fall into the team of not removing old posts and photos, or do a clean sweep of all your social media accounts. Personally, my decisions depends on the type of break up we had, whether it was amicable, and whether or not I feel the urge to punch them in the face. I haven’t deleted all the photos from my last relationship simply because doing so would take out such a large chunk of the memories I made over the past year or more. Since our lives were so intertwined, deleting it all would mean I would lose posts I shared on Christmas, birthdays and other big milestones. But 2012 version of me was all about deleting old boyfriends once a breakup happened, but I also posted a lot more often and had a lot less really going on at that time in my life.

How you choose to deal with an ex online is up to you, my overall advice is to do what makes you recover faster and easier. I’ve learned that guys are so much less bothered by this, which was proven when I visited my now ex’s apartment and still found all of our photos covering his fridge, weeks after we had broken up! You’re not petty for starting with a clean slate and you’re not holding onto things by continuing like nothing happened, so do what’s best for you. And also, screw that guy.

What do you do after a break up, delete all old posts and quickly unfriend them or continue living like nothing happened?

P.S. Are you a twenty something that isn’t sure if you’re living the dream or just surviving it? Click here to learn more on how you can connect with other twenty somethings on Instagram who know the struggle of trying to figure out how to adult while also eating popcorn for dinner one night a week.

I never Black Friday shop, partly because up until a few years ago I lacked the money to buy anything, but mostly because my mother was a firm believer in the idea that if you cant afford it, you must not need it all that much. So I don’t really Black Friday shop, unless going the next day to fuss about the mess left behind counts.

This year my sister and I braved the crowds at the only store we knew would be empty, Michaels Arts and Crafts. We needed Christmas lights and figured why the hell not, we’re young but also old ladies at heart, so we chose the most calm store imaginable. While there I realized I didn’t do too well with my yearly resolution, not terrible, but not to my standard either. Knowing exactly why I had failed to meet my goal, I decided to do something about it now. I bought a planner,  one of those fancy ones that come with stickers and pocket folders.

As I flipped through my planner I figured there was a lot more stuff I could do to make 2017 more successful, cause let’s face it, I think everyone gets a pass for 2016. Overall it was kind of a crap year, beginning to end.

If you’re looking to make this new year your best year yet, or get a head start on your New Year’s resolution, take these ten steps to set yourself up for success. You can substitute any step to better tailor it to your goals, or go the extra mile and just add on to what I’ve created. Skip whatever is gonna stress you out or isn’t necessary for you, because this is about starting the year on the path to your best year ever. 

Decluttering my closet was a goal I set for the month of November, and while the task took hours, once I was done I felt as if a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Minimizing your wardrobe not only leaves you with options that you love, it clears space for new pieces while giving you the opportunity to donate the clothes you no longer want to those in need. 

2. Change something big in your living space

My apartment layout has been the exact same since I first moved in. If you’re not looking to change address but want a change of scenery, take an afternoon and reorganize your living space. Simply shifting your furniture or finally getting around to hanging up your gallery wall can make your home feel like new.

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3. Make one thing easier for yourself in the new year

I’m a firm believer in the idea that small annoyances can add up to a bad day, so when you have the same daily issues you’re setting yourself up for failure. Do something now that will make your days in 2017 easier, such as auto reloading your commuter card, unsubscbing from that newsletter that fills up your inbox or setting up auto pay on a bill your always forgetting to pay. 

4. Choose a resolution/goal before others do

Choosing your new years resolutions, or better yet, goals for the new year ahead of time not only saves you the stress of having to think of one on the spot, but also allows you to prep for whatever you want to accomplish. For example, because one of my goals is to be better organized in the new year, I took the step to buying a planner in December to start practicing getting in the habit of writing things down. 

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If you ask me I think we have a little too much of everything nowadays. Friends we don’t really care for, clothes we never wear and photos on our phone we’ll never post. Remove something from your life you no longer need, whether that be because it takes up space or brings no value to your life. 

6. Complete a challenge

Challenges are a great way to get yourself motivated, as long as you choose one that you can commit to and set a reasonable goal. Some of my favorite challenges are the 40 bags in 40 days challenge, quitting soda or candy for a week, or committing to seeing friends at least once a week. Choose a challenge that aligns with your goal for the new year, and try it out to see what areas you need help with most. 

7. Identify your one regret this year

Stop and think for a second, what do you wish you had accomplished by the end of this year? Can you still reach that goal, and if not, what can you do right now to get one step closer? If the goal is still important to you, add it to your list for the new year, and if not, don’t get discouraged just because not everything went the way you planned. 

8. Find your squad

Friends are the best motivators, and by motivators, I mean they’re pretty great at telling you to get off your butt and get to work. Find someone who will push you no matter how many excuses you list, plus one more with a similar goal as yours. Having a friend with a similar goal gives you an accountability partner, plus someone to bounce off success stories with year round. 

9. Be cheesy

I’m gonna tell you something I’ve never admitted to anyone else, the reason 2012 was my most successful and productive year was because of one big thing, I was cheesy AF. I spent the entire year surrounding myself with quotes I found on Pinterest, reciting my goals in the mirror and constantly encouraging myself to not give up. It was weird at first, but after a few weeks it’s what kept me motivated when progress slowed. Be cheesy, write your dream with lipstick on the bathroom mirror and become your own biggest motivator.

When I wasn’t busy talking to myself in the mirror or pinning quotes on how travel changes your life, I was taking the time to talk to my future self. How exactly? Well I wrote myself a couple letters. It’s easy to give up on a goal when you forget just how important it once was to you, which is why I wrote a letter to myself four, eight and twelve months from New Years Day. Doing so gives you enough time to make progress between each letter, while also reminding yourself why you set this goal in the first place. 

I want to know what your biggest goal is for the upcoming year! On top of that, what’s one thing you can do this week to help make your dream a reality?

Hey everyone, I’m going to try to keep this quick and to the point. Two ways no one has ever described the way I tell a story. Over the past few months I have finally transitioned out of the idea that I have to blog for everyone and that my only value is as a college blogger, since that’s how this all started for me. Publishing regularly on my website has taught me that I’m attracting the exact demographic I fit into, twenty something women who are trying to figure out adulthood one day at a time. Like most twenty somethings I’m obsessed with Instagram, maybe a bit more than the average person. My obsession with snapping photos of my brunch and lazy Sundays inspired me to create something that I hope you all will be as pumped about as a I am, a new hashtag to link all of our confusing, photogenic, an ordinary life moments. I’m making a hashtag ya’ll, and I wanna invite every single one of you to use it!

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If you want a way to connect with other bloggers, young professionals, cat obsessed, wine drinking, Netflix watching women, use the hashtag #survivingour20s whenever you post to Instagram. This isn’t one of those Instagram challenges where you need to follow a prompt or fit a certain photo aesthetic, I want to see your everyday moments that feature what it’s really like to be a twenty something today.

Like the creeper I am, I will be liking any photos tagged with #survivingour20s, so make sure your Instagram account is set to public so that I and others using the hashtag can interact with you.

And one last thing, just cause it says #survivingour20s doesn’t mean you need to be 20-29 to join the community. I’m all about including everyone, so don’t let the number stop you from participating. Life is complicated as hell no matter what your age is, so feel free to use the hashtag to let everyone know you’re getting through all those confusing situations.

I’ll be the first to admit that I thought my twenties would be a little more nights out with my besties and a little less eating popcorn for dinner with my cat. Let’s let everyone know how living the dream can sometimes feel like we’re just surviving it. I can’t wait to see what you guys come up with, see ya on the gram!

P.S. If you wanna follow me on Instagram, I wouldn’t mind it.

Comment down below if you know of any other Instagram hashtags specifically for twenty somethings or if you plan on using the hashtag!

You guys, I tried, I really did. Here’s the thing, in the past thirty days I seriously learned what my obstacles are, where I continuously fail myself, and how others manage to get past all these excuses. Okay, it doesn’t help that I’m drinking a Coke as I write this, but in my defense I woke up at 7am today to go volunteer at a soup kitchen. Also, I have a paper due tonight. Oh, and I’m totally just making a million excuses because there’s no damn reason I should be drinking a Coke right now. That’s step one of living a healthier life, calling out your own bullshit. If you’re like me and look for a million and one reasons for why you can’t get a workout in or say no to those french fries, keep reading to learn how other’s get past all these mental roadblocks.

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Like I mentioned earlier, you need to be able to know the difference between actual obstacles and straight up excuses. For example, on Wednesdays I work from 9am to 6pm, then have class from 7-10pm. Sure I could wake up early or stay up late to exercise, but on days like that I need the extra sleep. Me not working out on a weekend? That’s just me coming up with an excuse for why I don’t have the time. Every time you skip a workout or opt to eat an unhealthy meal, write down why you made the decision. This way you can look back and see what your patterns are, where you can improve, and in which instances you’re just looking for the easy way out. Going into this challenge, I knew one of my biggest obstacles was my boyfriend’s love for eating out. The man loves fast food, especially on the weekends. Our struggle with both being picky eaters means I can’t just order a salad, because I will 100% throw that shit up. In my case, I can’t just stop eating with my boyfriend, but I can tell him to push me to make healthier choices. Figure out who your instigator is, and either avoid them while you get into the routine of things or let them know to help you stay accountable.

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As much as I love pilates, I suck at giving myself the time I need to do it. My goal for June is to schedule my workouts ahead of time, choosing both the hour and specific workout I’ll do. This way there’s no reason to waste time figuring out what moves I’ll do or for how long. If you need to, you can set a reminder on your phone or post the workout calendar where you’ll see it constantly. Another though one for me, making my health a priority. So often I chose to work on a blog post or accommodate my boyfriend’s cravings rather than stick to my plan. What I’m doing to make my health a priority is let my boyfriend know of my plans, plus I’m working towards a certain reward. It can be hard to make your health a priority when you’re balancing work and/or school, but it’s possible if you train yourself to stick to your own goals. Nothing is more painful than reading through your food log at the end of the week. Prepare to sit there and wonder why you eat so many french fries, frozen yogurt and midnight snacks. A food log lets you know where most of your calories are coming from, and at what time. Mine tells me that I do my worst eating in the hour between work and grad classes, which makes sense since I have no time to grab anything more than fast food. What I’ve done with this information is started packing healthy snacks ahead of time, or carving out time to give myself the opportunity to grab a meal I won’t regret later. Health goals don’t have to be giant things like losing X amount of pounds or cutting minutes off your mile time. If you aren’t used to living an active lifestyle, get yourself started by committing to walking around your neighborhood a few times a week, or testing out low impact videos every other day. Simply getting yourself into your gym clothes and off your bed is the first step to starting a new healthy habit.

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Sure, if you want to see results maybe this isn’t the best advice, but it’s more beneficial to develop a love for fitness than commit to an exercise routine you hate. In my case, I genuinely enjoy bicycling and pilates. My best advice is to try a variety of classes and exercise routine, and stick to the few you find yourself finishing all the way through.

How do you stay committed to your health goals? Give me all your advice in the comments below!

The summer before my freshmen year of college was very hectic for me. As a Type A personality, I must have read every college dorm packing list available, searching for one that listed every possible item I could have needed once moved into my freshmen year dorm. What I didn’t take into consideration was the fact that I would be placed in a triple dorm, meaning three girls in one very tiny room, or how many items my school provided for students. In an effort to save you some money when it comes to college shopping, I’ve broken down this shopping list into categories, followed by must haves and nonessentials, aka nice to haves. Depending on which university you attend, you may or may not need the items in the nonessentials category.

If you want to know my personal must have items, you can click here to read my top 10 items for freshmen year. I’ve also written about 10 things you probably won’t need in your college dorm, you can find that post by clicking here.

For more college advice, scroll to the bottom of this post for some of my most popular college posts about how to save money on textbooks, lessons I learned my freshmen year and the best way to study last minute for an exam! If your budget is low when it comes to college dorm shopping, my best advice is to focus on purchasing items in the must haves column as well as coordinate with your roommate as best you can. Also, be sure to read all the information your campus housing sends you for information on what is provided in the room. My best advice for any first time dorm shoppers it to invest where you will spend the most of your time, your bed! Throughout college I had a mattress pad that was at least 5 inches thick, which made sleeping on campus mattresses so much more enjoyable! If you get anything from this post it’s this, skip all the unnecessary accessories and splurge on good bedding! Below is a preview of the free ebook you can download + the printable college shopping list.

For the full 11 page ebook, enter your email down below to be able to access it instantly! Signing up takes seconds and gives you access to not only the ultimate college packing list, but the posts I think are a must read for any first year college students. Inside the free book you’ll find a breakdown of each area of your dorm, from bedding to tech, with the last page being a printable list you can take shopping with you.

As I was wasting time the other day I noticed my friend Noor had tagged me in an Instagram photo, which at the moment made no sense because there was no possible way she had taken a photo with me. (She lives in Pakistan, I’m all the way on the California coast.)

Turns out there’s a tag going around, and in the spirit of not being rude and ignoring the fact that I was tagged I figured why the hell not? I promise to do my best and not bore you with random facts that you’ve read a thousand times before.

1. I eat an entire bag of sunflower seeds a day. Sometimes more. I’ve always had a craving for seeds and have reached the point of eating them so often that I don’t need any other meals during the day.

2. I went years without drinking water. Years. Then a few months ago I was too cheap to buy anything other drinks to pack with my lunch and suddenly started drinking water.

3. I played softball for one season, and by played, I mean I stood in the outfield hoping the ball never got as far as I was. I was mostly in it for the uniform, which ended up being hideous.

4. I always carry two cell phones with me. The one that is in service and the one I prefer to take photos with. It makes no sense. 5. I used to steal books from the library because I believed the other kids weren’t treating them right.

6. I’m very easily annoyed, so easily that it’s hard to be around myself sometimes. But the only people who see this bitchy side of me are my boyfriends. (In the past, not as in I currently have multiple boyfriends.)

7. I don’t trust the people who work in salons and wax your eyebrows. Do they have an official title? Anyways, I don’t trust them, I swear they always take off wayyyy too much. 8. I’ve never watched The Bachelor and I have no interest in it either. Dating shows have always just felt so forced to me. 9. I’ve never tried most foods that people love. Like cake, donuts, all seafood, hot dogs, Nutella, steak, and about every other thing you probably couldn’t live without.

Nothing sexier than a cardboard box, am I right??

10. Sophomore year in college I dressed up as a robot and it was awesome. I spent days making the costume and kept it for months afterward.

11. Whenever I meet someone new I introduce myself by saying, “Hi, I’m Rubi…with an I.”

12. Every time I ride a taxi alone I will text a friend the license plate number. Just in case I’m kidnapped or something…

13. Late at night when I’m really bored I’ll walk around my house as quiet as possible to see how little noise I can make. Remember that scene in Enough (the movie with Jennifer Lopez and her abusive husband) where she’s trying to sneak out of the house? It’s half that, half pretending I’m in an episode of The Walking Dead. All in all, I bet I look ridiculous.

14. I fist pump whenever my popcorn is done. 15. I only run if there’s a prize at the end. Like a free tshirt or photo opportunity. 16. I don’t put a password on any of my electronics because if I’m kidnapped I’d like the police to find clues of what the heck I was doing before it happened. 17. Now that I’m writing this list it’s pretty clear I’m always preparing to be kidnapped, and to partially solve my own case.
18. I’ve seen almost every episode of Law and Order SVU, which is probably where my paranoia stems from. (Completely unrelated gif, I just love how they were the couple that never happened.) 19. I’ve pepper sprayed someone. It was actually a friend of mine who was getting on my nerves. 20. It’s impossible for me to smile in a photo after I’ve been asked to. I just cant, I’m sorry, my face doesn’t work that way!

If you made it to the end, wow. The lazy in me probably would have quit halfway through so I applaud you. Definitely leave a random fact about yourself in the comments or feel free to mock me for pepper spraying my own good friend.

And if you feel like completing the tag go ahead, this is me tagging you!

Being a twenty something feels a lot like being a 12 year old at a kid’s party. You’re not young enough to enjoy all the fun but you’re nowhere near old enough to relate to the adults. So you’re stuck in this weird stage where people expect you to be having the time of your life while still making responsible choices, like that’s even possible. I’m currently facing a dilemma of having the money to go on a vacation but lacking the time, and friends who have said money to vacation with me. That’s the thing about adulthood, everyone reaches it at different stages, which makes navigating adulthood that much more difficult. As I hid under my blankets to avoid looking at the messy state of my apartment, I realized I couldn’t possibly be the only one that feels like I’m sometimes just going through the motions. When you realize too late that you forgot to stock up on basic necessities, like toilet paper and dish soap. The unexplainable joy of waking up on pay day, only to give away all your money to rent, utilities and student loan bills. Stalking your old college boyfriends to see if they ever did become doctors or lawyers, then moving on to check up on high school boyfriends. Feeling a lot better about yourself after Facebook stalking your entire high school graduating class. Running out of food and eating popcorn for dinner. Looking around at your messy apartment and realizing your mom was right about you being a lazy slob. Dealing with people constantly telling you how you’re going to get fat in a few years. The idea of going to the gym sounding like it could be fun, but not wanting to spend any actual time or money at the gym. Working a job you aren’t totally in love with, but also not being able to picture yourself in your ideal role yet. The constant stress of wondering if every guy you meet is the one. Quickly realize he was just another one and a really big douche. All of your friends moving in opposite directions. Growing close to people you never imagined you would consider a best friend. Adopting a pet is one of the biggest milestones of this decade of your life. Not wanting to attend anything that doesn’t promise food or booze, preferably both. Hating that dating nowadays requires an app, but also being totally weirded out when a stranger walks up to you in real life. Relatives constantly asking you about when you plan to settle down, or worse… relatives never bothering to ask you when you plan to settle down. As if this isn’t even an option for you. Your old friend are starting to get married and you cant be envious even for a second. Having to act like surprise pregnancies are total blessings and to be celebrated. Sure, but I mean, can we be real for like two seconds? Quickly realizing you cannot be real for two seconds and keeping all your opinions about marriage and babies in your early twenties to yourself! Wondering sometimes if you picked the wrong major, city to live in or TV show to binge watch.

Knowing that everything will work out because your mom said it would. Eventually.

So spill, what’s been the hardest part of being a twenty something so far?