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Nobody enjoys studying and anyone who says they enjoy sitting in front of an overpriced book is a liar. Don’t trust them. Just like laundry, you have to get around to it eventually, unless you like paying for a class you’re going to have to take again. Oh, and you’ll be paying for that retake of course. I graduated from college just over a year ago and I swear my last paper as a senior was written the day before it was due. Am I proud of this? Maybe a little, but I don’t recommend it. Instead of pushing down your throat how you should study the entire semester and color code your notes, I’m going to give you the 10 ways I managed to get an A in every course, except economics because it sucked and it was right around the time I had an addiction to Fruit Ninja. Studying doesn’t have to be this thing you worry about all semester. As long as you go to class on a regular basis and actually try on your assignments, these 10 methods should help you get a good grade on your exam without you needing to spend every night in the library all semester long. I’m not advocating leaving your studying for the last minute, but let’s be honest, you’re going to. So for all my expert procrastinators out there, here’s how to do it without losing your mind. Dorm rooms are loud, especially when your roommate has all take home exams. (Stares at with jealousy.) With most people flocking to the library for the first time all semester come finals time, you cant even count on that space to be quiet. Study groups, people eating Doritos, people listening to Taylor Swift on their headphones way too loud (me) are all reasons why you need your headphones with you always. Plus, nothing is more motivating than a Taylor, Beyonce, Nicki playlist. Trust me, you’ll love it. I’m definitely guilty of getting sucked into skipping song after song, wasting way too much time trying to find the perfect playlist and next thing I know an hour has passed and my study playlist may be perfect but I haven’t actually studied. Both Spotify and Pandora have great radio/playlist options to help you avoid wasting any time. My favorite excuse to get out of studying is needing to go buy food, because hello, you can’t study on an empty stomach! Don’t fall for your own lies, buy food and snacks ahead of time so that you don’t have a reason to make a quick run to 7 Eleven. Plus, you can use these same snacks as a reward when you finish reviewing those long chapters. Listen, I totally get it, office hours are the worst. Professors and teaching assistants basically beg you to show up, promising that you can just stop by to chat or ask a quick question. But what happens the moment you do show up? Awkward silence and/or you have to stand outside and wait because some other student has never heard of this thing called the syllabus. Even though it feels weird, go! Take the time to write down every question you have and just ask them, if you’re lucky there will already be a group of people there to make the one on one interaction less likely.

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My only goal the first week of class is to form a relationship with one other person, just one! Why? Because there will come a day when I sleep in or need to be in line somewhere for free tickets, and on that day I will need to have the notes of whatever I missed. Having a friend in the class will give you a person to reach out to when you have a quick question plus someone to remind you that the paper was pushed to another due date.

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Students at my university were super into sending mass emails to everyone in the class in order to share Google Docs or a location of where everyone would be meeting to study. It feels weird at first to write an email that 300+ people are going to read but just do it! Why waste time finding the answers to all the study guide questions when you can just split that work up into pieces? Let’s be honest for a moment, 99% of us don’t open the book until it’s exam time, which means aint nobody got time to be catching up on all that reading. I’m not here to judge you, props to you for even buying the book! If you don’t have time to read every freaking sentence, take time to read the chapter summary, then focus on the points mentioned there. If it was important enough to be mentioned in the synopsis, chances are there will be a question on it. You can’t study if you don’t have all your notes in one place, haven’t seen your book in weeks and lack the basic essentials like highlighters. Spend an hour getting all your supplies together so once you start you don’t have to stop everything to find that handout from week two. Nothing is worse than being one of those students that asks a question that could be easily answered had they looked at the syllabus. Besides exam dates and book requirements, your syllabus most likely outlines what will be covered each day of class. If your professor spent three lectures on abc but only one on day lecturing on xyz, chances are they are more likely to ask you questions on abc. Your syllabus is an outline of the most important points to cover, so take advantage of it! Some people have the skills necessary to be able to put down their phone and get down to business, then there’s the rest of us. I swear I think I almost failed economics because I was determined to get a high score on Fruit Ninja, but don’t be like me. Take advantage of apps like StayFocusd that lock you out of your Facebook account and other social media websites.

Is there anything you do to help you focus while you study? I’d love to hear your #1 distraction or motivator in the comments below.

My passion for writing grew out of writing about relationships, but unlike others, my interest has always been about the end of relationships. Breakups, getting played, cheating, not knowing where you stand, all of these are stages of relationships that we don’t talk about, out of embarrassment or fear that others will judge us. At one point in our life most of us will get our heart broken, and whether you like it or not, you cant hold onto the hope forever that things will work themselves out and fall into place. Getting your heart broken shoves you into a situation where you are left picking up the pieces someone else left, which is why it’s so important to be present for someone when they take the risk of reaching out for support. Something must be in the air this month because I’ve had numerous people reach out to me for support regarding their relationship status, ranging from women who were never official to twenty years deep into a marriage. Somehow along the way my passion for relationships coupled with my unwavering desire to listen to women process what went wrong has led women from around the world to reach out to me during their lowest moment, and no matter where I am I will always make time for a woman who is sitting somewhere crying over a lost chance at love.

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The thing is I’m not always available, and not every woman who reads one of my posts will reach out to me. Over the years I’ve been through enough breakups to hear most pieces of advice from friends, the good and the bad, as well as on the other side. Now becoming a therapist, I’ve learned what opinions are better kept to myself, as well as techniques that help people heal in the toughest of situations. If you’re in a position to help a friend or family member through a breakup, keep reading for my best advice on how to help them vent, heal, and move on in the healthiest way possible. No one relationship is the same just as no one breakup is the same, but my hope is that these tips will help you comfort someone else when they need it the most.
It can be tempting to trash talk an ex once a relationship has ended, but my rule of thumb is to avoid the name calling until I’m 100% positive a reconciliation is out of the question. Too many people are in on and off relationships, which can be awkward for everyone when they get back together. Speaking the truth is okay, but straight up bashing should be avoided until all bridges have been burned. As a therapist, I’ve learned the best way to help someone who is dealing with a difficult situation is to remain neutral. You would think my job would be to side with my clients, but that’s not always the case. The same rule goes for your friend. Remaining neutral means you don’t yet challenge anything they are saying, you simply let them make their point, say how they feel, and serve as an outlet for them to express themselves to. Anyone who has been through a tough breakup knows that no matter how long the final conversation was, it never feels like enough. For this reason, it’s important to only make yourself available to someone if you are going to give them the opportunity to talk until they can let it all out. Sometimes this takes multiple conversations, hours, and you’ll most likely hear a lot of information be repeated or changed as time passes. Talking through a problem helps people gain clarity of the situation, which is why the best thing you can do for a friend right after a breakup is give them an audience to vent their feelings to until they feel heard. Another tip I learned by becoming a therapist, the less advice you give the better. To be honest, therapists are really in the field of giving advice, we’re more tools to help people clearly see their options and choose the one that best suits them. Every time a friend asks you advice or an opinion, try flipping it around so that they ultimately answer their own question. For example, if asked “don’t you think it’s wrong for him to be texting other girls even though we weren’t official?” Try responding with, “what does him texting other girls tell you about how he valued your relationship?” By having friends make up their own minds, they’re more likely to see both the good and bad for themselves.

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What helps me most during breakups is knowing that my friends are willing to help me through it, which is why being told I can reach out whenever I need someone was so beneficial to my mental health. Don’t be afraid to call a friend to check up on them, send them a text in the middle of the day, or surprise them to provide a little extra company. Our generation is not shy about showing off their significant others on social media, yet only the best moments are broadcasted for all to see. For this reason, so many of us don’t know when the rest of us go through painful breakups, leading everyone to feel like they must be the only one. If you can relate to your friend in any way, don’t be afraid to tell them what you went through, how you got through it, and how your life has changed because of it.

Life after a breakup consists of a lot of sitting at home and running through old conversations in your mind, which is why it’s so important to get outside. If you have the time, make plans to do something with your friend, even if it’s just in their home. Distracting them for a short period of time gives them a break from their reality and lets them know that life will return to normal eventually. Social media makes it too easy to keep in touch after a breakup, but for some, the added insult of being unfriend (or blocked) makes it more difficult for them to heal. Although your friend may ask, avoid stalking their ex for them online. If it’s too hard to say no, unfriend their ex yourself so that your only option is to say no. Making time for a friend after their breakup doesn’t mean your entire life has to revolve around them, small things like calling them or sending them a text is all they need to know you’re still there if they need the support. For many, friends get put on the backburner during a relationship, so reaching out can feel weird once it ends. Making time for friends once a breakup has happened gives you both an opportunity to reconnect.

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The hardest part of being a therapist is telling clients realizations they don’t come to on their own, especially ones that they are actually repressing. After some time has passed, don’t be afraid to be honest with your friends. Honests truths are different from advice because they have nothing to do with your opinion. For example, stating that they were cheated on 3 times is a fact. Stating, “he’ll probably just end up cheating on you again,” is an opinion, avoid just stating your opinion. Telling friends the truths they don’t want to admit to themselves is difficult, but it can be necessary for them to see the big picture and begin moving on with their lives.

If you’re helping someone through a breakup or have in the past, comment below the hardest part in the process. I’d love to know what your greatest challenge was for follow up posts on the topic of breakups!

My university had an unusually high rate of students who commuted, which meant that on any day there were crowds of students hanging around waiting for their next class to begin. For anyone that knows the struggle of having to wait hours between your classes, you know sitting and watching Netflix can grow old after a while. Yeah I said it, by day fifty seven you get tired of watching the same episodes of The Office day after day. Luckily I had the privilege of always living on campus or relatively close, so even a one hour break was enough time for me to run home, grab some food and lay in bed. Even though I lived close enough to campus to travel home during my gaps between classes I didn’t always, instead I started to make more productive use of that time. Whether you need something to do because you have nowhere else to go or you just rather not watch the time pass, there’s plenty of tasks you can get done in between your college classes. And I’m not saying everything you do be productive, because we all know how long that will last. As terrible as it sounds, spending some time in the library will save you so much stress later. Taking the time to read over your coursework. work on those projects and focus on studying for exams means less time doing all those tasks at home. If you have the time now, save your time away from campus for actual fun activities. While you’re in the library you can save money on textbooks by reading the textbooks on reserve or scanning yourself a PDF copy. I haven’t bought a textbook in years, all by taking advantage of the books my university placed on hold. To learn more about how to save money by not buying books, click here. The older I get the more I realize how important it is to keep yourself fed. Since you’re most likely stressed, running around campus and running off ramen noodles, use some free time to grab an actual meal between classes. Plus, isn’t there some study by someone that you learn better when you’re well fed?

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The biggest downside of my university was having to pay a gym membership fee whether I wanted to use the facilities or not, so do your best to actually visit the gym when you have the time. I’m not saying you have to go lift weights between history and biology, but at the very least you can borrow a basketball hoop and relive your high school embarrassment. Are you applying to internships or close to graduating? In thirty minutes or less you can have someone on your campus’ career center critique your resume to better your chances of getting hired. If you don’t have a career center, I have some articles on how to create a resume and mistakes you definitely want to avoid. Are you on track to graduate? How about to graduate with honors? Visiting with your academic adviser will ensure you don’t miss any important requirements while also prepping you for life after college. Since most appointments are less than thirty minutes, you should have more than enough time to meet with your adviser.

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Pause and think about your least favorite class. Now why is that? Any class where you aren’t getting at least a B means you would probably benefit from attending office hours. Especially if there’s an exam coming up! Write down some topics and questions ahead of time and go visit that teaching assistant who swears up and down that there’s no such thing as a stupid question.
If you have a homework assignment that can be finished in the your spending staring at your Facebook news feed, close your laptop and just get it done! Trust me, future you will be so happy you didn’t leave it till the last minute.

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This one may sound weird, but one day you’re gong to be 23 and spend your days wearing neutral colors every single day. Take advantage of this time when you can nap when and where you please. If you must watch Netflix between classes, do it outside! Yes the glare is annoying but eventually we all work 9-5 and don’t get out of the office until the sun has gone down. Damn daylight savings!

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This August marks three years since I uprooted my life, moved to the East Coast, with nothing more than a few hundred dollars and an acceptance letter into grad school. I don’t know how I did it, but within two months I managed to start my graduate program, find two jobs and start building a life in a new city.

No one warned me how hard it would be, especially when it came to feeling like I was in control of my life. Making friends was hard, and even with the few I had, finding the energy to spend time with them was even harder. Working and attending graduate school full time is one of those things that you can’t fully relate to until you’re in that position, but you can prepare.

As someone who had never even had a job, entering the workforce at the same time I was going to school full time was a bit of a shock. If you’re considering going to school full time while working full time, or doing both part time, keep reading to see how you can prepare to better balance both responsibilities.

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If possible, plan your course schedule ahead of time to anticipate changes in your work schedule and intensity of schoolwork. Unfortunately with my graduate school I was not able to plan my courses more than a semester ahead of time, which made it difficult to anticipate the types of hours I could commit to and the number of classes I would be taking. By planning your classes ahead of time, it gives you the opportunity to collaborate with your employer and control the amount of work you’ll have throughout the year.
For the first two years of my graduate degree I was in complete denial about the type of life I was living. My life revolved around work and school, constantly stressing about one or the other. It wasn’t until the end of my second year that I came to terms that I couldn’t do both full time, so I decided work needed to be a priority. Your situation may be different, especially if your program keeps in mind people’s work responsibilities when creating a course schedule.

This didn’t mean I took a break from school, instead I went to school part time for a few semesters and worked as much as possible. By doing this I eventually saved enough money to quit my job for my last semester of school. For more on how I did this and why, you can read this post.

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When I started attending my graduate school the majority of my classes were offered in the evening. What I didn’t realize, or think to ask, were the hours that more advanced courses would be offered. Because of this mistake, I later realized all my courses would be offered during the daytime, meaning I would have to leave work.

When talking to admissions counselor, don’t be shy to ask for a current course offering, including the hours courses are offered. Having the option of evening and night courses could make the difference between being able to balance both work and school full time.

Because very few things are negotiable when attending graduate school, you most likely will need to set boundaries in the workplace. By boundaries I mean committing to a certain amount of hours and no more, or clearly stating the days you are unavailable. This may be more difficult at certain types of jobs, but with enough notice, it shouldn’t be something that’s impossible. We all do it, I even still fall into the trap, but it will cause you more stress than necessary. I’m not saying keep up with all your class readings and respond to every email as you get it, but generally don’t leave big projects until the last moment. Whether the assignment is for work or school, having to balance both means you might not have a lot of extra time to do it at the last minute. Avoid this unnecessary problem by doing small chunks of work at a time than all of it the night before it’s due.

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If you’re currently employed and thinking of starting graduate school then you are at an advantage. Hopefully your employers sees the value you bring to the organization and will be willing to be flexible with your schedule. If you are applying to new jobs, my biggest advice is to be honest about your circumstance. When applying to my last job, I was 100% honest about my involvement in graduate school, including the hours I would likely never be available. While this may prevent some job opportunities, in the long run, you wouldn’t be able to manage both anyways. You can’t do this alone. Well, actually, you can, but you shouldn’t. I balanced working full time and going to grad school full time for the first year and a half, and I was absolutely miserable. I was dating a guy who didn’t work or go to school, so venting to him about my stress levels was pointless. Find others in a similar situation, or better yet, people who’ve been through it. If you can, form a relationship with peers in your graduate program. Most likely the people in your classes are dealing with the same stressors, so who better to try to relate to?

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If I learned anything in the past three years, it’s that comparison really is the thief of joy. When I started my graduate program I was going to school full time and working full time. I quickly realized this was not something I could do long term, especially since my masters requires me to complete an internship. Accepting the fact that there would be semesters that I took less courses took time, especially since it took me off track to graduate in two years. Whether you get your masters in two or three years doesn’t matter, your everyday quality of life does. It will be difficult to see other friends graduating or progressively moving forward, but you’ll thank yourself on a daily basis for not allowing going to school and work full time take over your life.

Are you currently balancing work and school? How are you managing? Also, if you have any additional questions, feel free to ask below!