This week at work I had a realization that made me wonder why I hadn’t thought of this before. Quick briefer, I’m a therapist, sorta. Technically I am, but I’m unlicensed, which means I’m in the process of earning my hours to be able to qualify to sit for the licensing exam. I’ve completed my master’s program and been trained in how to sit with everyday people and talk about the stuff that makes them feel like they are living anything less than a happy life. Thankfully I knew what I wanted to do from a young age, and maybe at one point I’ll write about what actually led me to choose to study psychology and counseling. But back to what I was saying, I had a realization. After a tough session with one of my regular clients, I found myself feeling really frustrated about how the hour had went. I was frustrated and they were feeling defeated, all because they were self-sabotaging in their everyday life. Here’s the thing, people base their worth, their ability to accomplish things, and how others will respond to them on past experiences. Meaning if others always praised you, you will most likely grow up to believe that your efforts will be recognized and good things will happen to you. On the flip side, those who have faced rejection from a young age have a worldview that tells them that hard work doesn’t always mean rewards, people will never fully accept them, and that some things aren’t worth trying for.
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In the case of my tough session, I was frustrated that my client couldn’t see both her potential and the ability for her to advocate for herself. This is a clear example of me being a bad therapist though. Why? Well I wasn’t taking into account her worldview, which means I was pushing my beliefs of how fair the world is on her.
If you’re someone who routinely tells yourself there’s no point in trying, nobody will care, or that other’s will mock/hate/laugh at what you create, keep reading to find alternate ways to push yourself out of your comfort zone one step at time.
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This week at work I had a realization that made me wonder why I hadn’t thought of this before. Quick briefer, I’m a therapist, sorta. Technically I am, but I’m unlicensed, which means I’m in the process of earning my hours to be able to qualify to sit for the licensing exam. I’ve completed my master’s program and been trained in how to sit with everyday people and talk about the stuff that makes them feel like they are living anything less than a happy life. Thankfully I knew what I wanted to do from a young age, and maybe at one point I’ll write about what actually led me to choose to study psychology and counseling. But back to what I was saying, I had a realization. After a tough session with one of my regular clients, I found myself feeling really frustrated about how the hour had went. I was frustrated and they were feeling defeated, all because they were self-sabotaging in their everyday life. Here’s the thing, people base their worth, their ability to accomplish things, and how others will respond to them on past experiences. Meaning if others always praised you, you will most likely grow up to believe that your efforts will be recognized and good things will happen to you. On the flip side, those who have faced rejection from a young age have a worldview that tells them that hard work doesn’t always mean rewards, people will never fully accept them, and that some things aren’t worth trying for.
Related Post: How to Stay Healthy If You Hate Working Out
In the case of my tough session, I was frustrated that my client couldn’t see both her potential and the ability for her to advocate for herself. This is a clear example of me being a bad therapist though. Why? Well I wasn’t taking into account her worldview, which means I was pushing my beliefs of how fair the world is on her.
If you’re someone who routinely tells yourself there’s no point in trying, nobody will care, or that other’s will mock/hate/laugh at what you create, keep reading to find alternate ways to push yourself out of your comfort zone one step at time.