Ever since I made the goal of not giving up on my dream, which is to create an online community for twenty somethings, I’ve dedicated a lot of time to trying to figure out my plan of action. As someone who can’t so much as clean her apartment without making a list, I like to have a set of steps to follow, milestones to reach and ways to define what success means to me. Lately I’ve been very overwhelmed by it all, especially with so many bigger and more popular blogs to compare my little space on the internet to. Even though I totally understand that these bloggers have been doing it for longer, have more time, or are at times just more interesting than me, it can be hard to motivate myself to publish something knowing I get a fraction of the page views they do. And for anyone who says that page views aren’t everything, that may be true, but if I didn’t care about how many people read my writing I’d publish it all on a private blog.

So much of my weekends are spent reading everything I can about how to create a successful blog. The most popular topics circling the internet right now is that I need to create a newsletter, offer a product, provide value. This may all be true, and even with my love for lists, it can be tiring to post list after list of how to get a job, get over a guy and decorate your space. Don’t get me wrong, I love my blog and the content on it, but sometimes a girl just wants to spill her guts to strangers on the internet.

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After a lot of thinking I figured out what I have that makes me unlike the other millions of blogs out there. Me. My personality, my experiences, my thoughts and opinions are something that no blogger out there has. The advice that I give should be applicable to everyone (or most everyone), but the personality behind it will always be uniquely mine. For someone who preaches about wanting to connect with other twenty something about how hard adulting can be, I don’t often share the awkward moments I experience in my day to day life. My content will stay the same and my purpose is still the same, the only thing that will change are more details of my personal life will be woven into posts, plus some extra posts that are completely dedicated to the twenty something experience. Now that I’ve figured out that my perspective of trying to enjoy life in the city is the value my blog provides, it’s a little easier to not have to worry about what my reader is taking away from reading a post. My writing doesn’t have all the answers because frankly I don’t have all the answers, but I promise to share any I find along the way.

Are you a blogger? If so, how do you deal with blog on blog jealousy, plus, what’s one thing you have to offer that no one else does?




P.S. Are you a twenty something that isn’t sure if you’re living the dream or just surviving it? Click here to learn more on how you can connect with other twenty somethings on Instagram who know the struggle of trying to figure out how to adult while also eating popcorn for dinner one night a week.