While for some one year might not be a long time, you’re talking to a girl who has a knack for driving boys away. Maybe it’s my bossiness strong leadership skills or my rigidness need for excellence, but my current relationship has been the most stable and long lasting one of them all. I’ve had boyfriends in the past that I’ve dated for longer, but stupidly I accepted the on again/off again lifestyle that you can sometimes get sucked into when you’re young and stupid, I mean in love. My current relationship hasn’t always been easy though, with each of us having to adjust to one another’s very different lifestyle. My idea of a perfect weekend includes a fun night out, home at a reasonable hour, farmers markets and planned activities. My boyfriend is a much more live in the moment kind of guy, especially if the moment includes a drink in his hand. A few months ago I was convinced we weren’t going to make it to the end of the week. I woke up every day wondering if that day was going to be the day we would break up. With fights stemming from simple things like our choice of words or tone, the boy I had fallen in love with was quickly becoming the boy who was driving me insane. And I’m sure I was no peach either. After countless night of screaming at one another late into the night and too many harsh words exchanged, I was tired of fighting and beyond tired of wondering what was going to happen next. With a new job under my belt and my grad classes starting, I saw less and less of my boyfriend during the week. His weekend night schedule meant we only saw each other for an hour or two during the day, which helped a bit with putting a stop to the fighting. But there was one thing that saved our relationship, date night. I’m not sure how it happened or who had the idea, but we made the conscious decision to make Tuesday nights the day a week we take each other out and treat one another like we did in the beginning. By setting aside a day just for us, we had something to look forward to on days when we only saw each other in passing. Tuesday date nights have now become a symbol of fun for us, with us looking forward to it all weekend and reminiscing about how much fun we had for the reminader of the week. Our usual plans include a quick dinner followed by a marathon of pinball games at our new favorite bar. These hours at the beginning of the week give us the time to catch up on all the things we forget to mention when we get home from work tired, and remind us that even though we see each other daily it’s important to set aside quality time.

Do you and your significant other do anything special to keep the zsa zsa zsu? If so, lemme know in the comments below, I’d love to hear how everyone around me manages to keep a guy/girl!